Our Thoughts Determine Our Destiny

Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Choose your words, for they become actions.
Understand your actions, for they become habits.
Study your habits, for they become character.
Develop your character, for it becomes your destiny.
~by Frank Outlaw.


Thoughts -> Words -> Actions -> Habits -> Character -> Destiny !

婚姻

听到旧同事患病的消息，丈夫又对她已有微言， 我觉得心里很难受！

当初的山盟海誓，有难同挡的承诺，去了哪里？人。。。真的那么现实吗？ “夫妻有如同林鸟，大难临头个自飞”。。。真的要这样残酷吗？我想到也心寒。。。

究竟，婚姻是什么？真的想不通！如果这就是婚姻，那不要也罢！

Friendship

Today I receive a call from a friend who I do not contact nearly about 2-3 years. We are good friend because she is a good and trustworthy lady. She is helpful, considerable, willing to share her experience and knowledge with the surrounding people, especially to her junior like me. She appreciates friendship very much. I really respect and like her very much. We even have not contacted so long already, but when we start to chat on the phone today … the feeling is coming back … we are so close …. I really like the feeling and feel so warm….I strongly believe that this is so called “true friendship” J

Sometimes, I just feel that I am very lucky because I can meet many good guys and gals throughout my life. I am surrounded by most of the good people, and for sure there are many bad people as well, but I really don’t care about them. I really treasure a “true friendship” … thanks!

According to Buddhist teaching (cause and effect), I am told that I was doing “good” in my past life(s), so as reward, I can meet many kind people out here. However, I need to ensure that I do not deplete my good karma. I need to “keep and save” more for my good karma this life every moment in order to sustain this kind of good treatment! It’s just like a bank saving account, if you always use the money (good karma), u will be broke one day! Please, please do good… avoid evil …. (& purify my mind)!

Leon's Blog

I have just finished reading Leon's blog. I feel so impressed by his english and his cuties' :) All of sudden, I just reliase that he has "grown up" ... not the kid who is called "la la" in my mind anymore. Hmm... time is really flying ... from the day he born till now ... he is already teenager ... and ....what am I? Aunty? ...... Phew ..... really scarrying just think about the age & time!

I start to like blog ... kinda wonderful stuff ... can know and understand each other without saying a word .....Blog is hurray !

远行

还记得第一次单独出远门是去吉隆坡申请奖学金。从来不曾一个人远出，当时很怕。。。但，我需要这笔奖学金来减轻父母的经济负担。 “去”，虽然并不一定可以得到这笔奖学金，但如果我不去，肯定就没有机会了！我那时的心情，忐忑不安，觉得无依无靠，很无助， 但我非去不可，我其实最怕这种感觉了。

如果可以，再不要这种感觉了！
但是，可能吗？hmm...... 根本不可能！有谁可以在黄泉路上陪伴你呢？ “自己做，自己受”， 这也理所当然。

那么，就试试一个人去旅行吧！
虽然担心， 但也想往一个人旅行的孤独，凡是要亲力亲为，为全部行程负责，好坏都因个人问题，嗯。。。就一个人上路吧！

就在今年9或10月份吧！一来可以为自己庆祝生日（已经好久没有真正为自己庆生了）；二来可以去旅游，增广见闻；三来，做一个不曾做过的事情， 一举三得，何乐而不为呢？嗯。。。很期待这个旅程。。。真的必需好好策划一番。

自助旅行

今年忽然有一个念头，想一个人去背包自助旅行。策划今年9月或10月份，应该可以达成这个计划。 用“策划”这个字，是因为我真的需要详细的计划一下！考虑的范围包刮：-

(1) 去哪个地方/国家？它要安全又经济的！
(2) 应该到哪个景点？它有什么历史价值？或是含着当地人民的文化？
(3) 以什么交通工具较为方便？时间又如何？
(4) 住在什样的地方既方便又安全？
(5) 整个行程应该如何安排呢？
(6) 这个旅程需要多少钱？多少时间？如何以有限的资源（时间与金钱）,得到无限的满足感？
(7) 其他考虑事项包刮：天气，治安，外汇兑换率，签证, 特别条款？

mmm……还有什么事项应该考虑呢？！想到才写吧。

Blog 部落格

我告诉妹妹， 我开始学写部落格了。

她听后就对我说，“你的语文能力都不好，还敢写部落格？”

我知道她说得对，但我写的目的不是要考试拿分数，只是要抒发情感，表达我的想法而已，不需要漂亮的修饰词，只要能写出我的意思，就已经心满意足了。

很多事情，有时我都无法告诉别人，不是我神秘，是我不知道要如何开口告诉别人。可能这是从小就养成的习惯，不要让父母操心，就是报喜不报忧。

其实，小时候会蛮辛苦！试问有哪个小孩不是叽叽喳喳对父母谈个不停？可是，我不能；我知道父母对我的期望有多大，我不能让他们失望。而且，再想想，所有的事情，总有一天会过去，全部东西都是暂时的，所有问题都有解决的办法。我知道那种无力感的痛苦，力不从心的挫折感，我尽量所有的事情都自己“啃”下来，我不要父母操心。他们希望我完成大学，做个好小孩，我也不负所望，我。。。做到了。

到长大后，已习惯成自然，很少把自己的问题告诉别人，都是一一想办法解决，这样多年还是过去了。当然，最重要，自己的人生也并不是大风大浪，还可以撑得过去，应该还算有福报吧？！　在加上自己的工作性质，顾客的事情是绝对保密，所以更是小心奕奕的说话了。

尤其这几年来，看的事情多了，认识到不同阶层的人，更有不同的体会。“自己的路，自己走”身边的人，都是过客，包括父母，兄弟姐妹，丈夫太太，亲戚朋友，孩子。。。到最终，还是一个人躺在那四四方方的空间；虽然，人一开始由天注定，但好坏还是可以更改的，我们得为自己的一生负责。。。"We do the best, let God does the rest "